We all have at least some knowledge of love but do you know what the term “love languages” mean? It was 1995 when Dr. Gary Chapman wrote the book titled ‘The Five Love Languages’ and it has only gained more and more popularity over the years.
What exactly is love language and how it can help your relationships? According to Mr. Chapman, he has been counseling couples in crisis for many years and has found one thing quite common; if one person feels the love in a way then it isn’t necessary for the spouse to feel the love that way as well. In other words, we can feel and understand love in a specific language. So, what are these five love languages? Let’s get to know them better:
Word of Affirmation
There is a need to express love with words in this love language. For a person whose love language is the word of affirmation, even simple words mean a lot to them. For instance, words like “you look cute” or “I like your hair” are enough for them to feel loved. For a person with this love language, hearing words that express love is enough to make them feel desired. However, this also means that insulting or hurtful words have a deeper impact on them.
For this love language, there is nothing more impactful for a person than the physical touch of their spouse. Whether it is a hug, hand-holding or a kiss on the cheek, a person with this love language can thrive on it. If the primary love language of a person is physical touch, he/she feel unloved without it. This means that all the words or gifts in the world won’t matter if there is no physical love.
Acts of Service
This love language means doing anything for your partner that you know he/she would do. It is all about easing the burden of responsibility of your partner. From doing grocery shopping to vacuuming the floors, this is a beautiful love language that sends a message to your partner that you actually care about him/her.
This love language is not about greed. It is not necessarily materialistic as well. In fact, the person who adores this language gets excited with the feeling of being loved upon seeing the effort and thoughtfulness behind the gift. The person can feel loved and appreciated even if the gift is a small cup with something romantic written on it.